No longer "stuck808". Now my name is Bond. "MrBond

[JacT]

Bond as I said you know what works best.I am not critising you and apologise you found the need to be defensive.I had hoped I was helping to facilitate your thought process as you did with me and posted because I care.We need someone to lead the way and show it can be done.
I agree the OM behaviour is appauling but are you surprised? They are slime balls thats what they do..destroy people..hurt people, hurt kids, destroy family units...I know what MLC does to people .I see it in my H to the point he has completely cut off his children,family,friends.His moral compass no longer exists never mind lost...
What do you want her to do in terms of action?
Do you actually believe anything she does will make a difference to this OM?...no chance cos in his eyes he won the battle but you have won the war..and you have..He used your wife..they all use their A partners.
In her frail state, what action would you like your wife to take?Perhaps you need initially to spell it out to her.
I know my H hasnt a clue where to start in fixing his mess and he needs someone to help.Unfortunately I do not have the R now to help...so he has to figure it out, I am not confident he will.
Its clear you are very in love with your wife Bond(I wish my H found the courage to fight for his family in the way you have),she is a very lucky woman.