WAH in MLC with PA

[Mila]

DG (((Hugs)))

Seems like our WHs are much better at detaching then we are.

I'm so tired and confused about how I feel about him...

me too

[job]

D,
I'm so sorry you are feeling down right now and the confusion will continue for a while. The "clarity" moments tend to give us hope and we look for them all of the time.

Yes, the walkaways detach very well. They began to detach months prior to dropping the bomb on us. They had a head start in shutting down on us.

Please do something extra special for yourself today.

[DiamondGirl]

Trying to shift my focus away from whether H will sign or not... Whether we're moving or not...

Working on doing what we need to do regardless of what happens and trying to save as much $$$ for either outcome...

A working crystal ball would be helpful... But not nearly as much fun

[DiamondGirl]

Going to the L in a bit... To discuss the probably useless SA he drafted.... Hoping he can help me figure out a way to either compel H to allow me to purchase the house and put the equity for both of us in trust until D is final... Or if there is a way to get the mortgage co to sell to me directly... Or?

I'm reaching here because if H won't sign for me to change mortgage to end of month, then I won't have the time to get enough $$ together to buy another house...

Pray for my sitch please... I sure am right now..

[seeking answers]

Prayers going out for you DG. (((Hugs)))

[courageous wife]

Praying for you DG!

[DiamondGirl]

Updating....

L said only option was to either get H to sign equity over or get other company on title to force H to sell house to release their $$.

I was in the process of composing the email to H about changing the mortgage payments to monthly when he sent me an email first that made my blood boil...

H said he would sign the change of payment form if I sign his version of custody!

I couldn't believe H was bargaining with his kids future!

Of course the email I ended up finishing was less "honey filled" after that... Pretty much told him what I thought of him at that point.... No profanity involved...

Maybe not smart when trying to get a signature... Definitely a backslide... It felt good to take a tough stand where I used to cave...

Basically told H I did not bargain with my kids for anything and would walk on the house before giving in to blackmail... I told him that as of the next mortgage payment I would not be paying the mortgage if he wasn't willing to sign the equity over. I would need to prepare for a move and the companies involved would be told to contact him regarding house payments...

I am so confused as to my feelings for H right now...

One minute I can't see us ever being able to reconnect on any level again... On the other I don't want to give up on him...

Going to see the company on title on Tues to see what can be done... If anything... As they are the other party on title they can force H to put the house up for sale... But they can't make him sell to me specifically...

In the meantime I have issues with S13 and D3...

I'm half way to crazy...

[seeking answers]

(((DG))) Praying for you and that it all works out.

[DiamondGirl]

Just read this and I liked it...


"Grandfather spoke again, saying, "Trying to live a spiritual life in modern society is the most difficult path one can walk. It is a path of pain, of isolation, and of shaken faith, but that is the only way that our Vision can become reality. Thus the true Quest in life is to live the philosophy of the Earth within the confines of man. There is no church or temple we need to seek peace, for ours are the temples of the wilderness. There are no spiritual leaders, for our hearts and the Creator are our only leaders. Our numbers are scattered; few speak our language or understand the things that we live. Thus we walk this path alone, for each Vision, each Quest, is unique unto the individual. But we must walk within society or our Vision dies, for a man not living his Vision is living death."

-- The Quest
by Tom Brown, Jr.

[DiamondGirl]

Thanks, SA...

I've been doing a lot of that lately... D3 has been clinging to the "constants" and keeps saying how much she loves her home... talk about knife twisting..

*sigh*