Had a small fight with her today over money. Leaving from picking up the kids, she said that she needed $75 to pay for June extended day. And I said, well what about the $40 you owe me for the router I had picked up for her (yes, Karen, I know, I shouldn't have done that ), and the money she took out of the joint checking to pay her cable / internet bill (not to mention the close to $1000 of propane / phone bills for the house when she was living here that she hadn't paid that is now on my credit card... but I didn't mention that)
And she said, what about the tens of thousands of dollars that I "screwed her out of" from the sale of the first house on a technicality (her name was never on the title as I bought it when I was single). Hm. I said, I didn't screw you out of anything, and she said just leave, I can't wait until this is over (I think she thinks that hurts me).
I felt more or less unphased... texted her later for something about the kids, she sent a brief reply.
None of this is that significant or particularly upsetting at this point, it's just what happened today. I guess a reminder to stay away from the edges of the map, thar be dragons. And it ain't worth it.
But I'd kind of hoped that going through mediation would have arrested these arguments about money. I'm no longer interested in the merits of either my or her arguements anymore, because we both compromised and agreed.
Band practice tonight here at the house, that was good (just me and a buddy). Grilled chicken for dinner for us all, that was good. Took care of my boys. Played tooth fairy.
You know, seems like changing my tax status to "single" and removing an exemption pretty much cancelled out ceasing contributions to my 401k. That really sucks. I'm not getting more money every month, I'm just sending more to the federal government instead of saving it.
I'm going to be filing as head of household next year, and the spousal support is deductable, so I'm not sure what's what yet with the withholding.
Well, feel like I'm returning to matter-of-fact-land again. Leveling off.
I feel like I'm waiting for something, but I don't know what... things are more settled, but I don't know. Maybe it is the signing. Something to bring this to a close, and move on to the next phase. I'm not sure what I'm trying to say, but maybe will think on this. Darn, I keep staying up too late.
), and the money she took out of the joint checking to pay her cable / internet bill (not to mention the close to $1000 of propane / phone bills for the house when she was living here that she hadn't paid that is now on my credit card... but I didn't mention that)