Hi Seeing Red - I am worried my husband is loving my 180 too, but the sitch is different because he is living elsewhere currently.
Since I'm just now learning how to handle these situations myself, I don't have sage advice. But I do wonder if he needs things to not be so easy at home. Like, he gets you off his back and not caring, but also doesn't get any of the benefits of a wife - no laundry, cooking, etc. if you currently do those things. If he's a decent dad, maybe you can force the childcare help - I've told my H point blank that I'm keeping track of his contact with D and if he decides not to spend time with her than this is fine - it will just affect him in a custody hearing. Not 100% sure it would affect him, but he believes me that it would. Are you keeping a journal of his limited involvement with the kids? Can you hire a babysitter to GAL yourself?
