feel like giving up - pt 2

[Gardener]

luv,

I fail to understand why I am the one being f*cked here.

A good question to ask your L. And ask it just like that. And insist on a competent, professional response and solution.

Lurkin' & prayin'

[LSG]

Luv,

You are one tough and caring person. You vent all you want. In the end, he is going to see your tough side that you will not put up with unfair treatment from anyone.

This is just a temporary setback for you. He will be the one left venting, not you.

Let that anger out here to keep that caring persona showing while you work towards what is fair to you.

[luvless]

Gardener - keep lurkin' and keep prayin' !!! I need it....thank you.

LSG - You're constantly stopping by with support and I appreciate it. I will try to stay calm it's so hard! I guess I'm just tired of getting bent over without any KY ya know?

I want to keep dignified...unlike Mr. Luv who has thrown his family to the curb. He came by yesterday to pick up his car. I wasn't home but the kids were clearly home as my son's car was in the driveway. He did not even bother to tell them to come outside so he can see them or give them a hug. Do you know what it must have been like for S19 to see his dad drive away (cuz he did) and not even acknowledge anyone at the time? He has been gone for so long. I feel so bad for my kids.

Ok...so Mr. Luv calls S19 a whole 15 mins later to say he picked up the car but still. There is no restraining order against him. He could have seen the kids or said come meet me at a restaurant so we can talk and I'll buy you guys dinner. I find it terribly heartbreaking for my kids...what they must think of their dad. He buys them things but is completely absent from their lives!

I have to pack up his things today. I am pretty sick with a cold and I hope to have a stoic attitude while clearing out his closet. I don't want to cry. He isn't sad about coming to take them out of here so why do I bother being so upset?

Thanks for listening.

Luv

[Onthemountaintop]

Ok...so Mr. Luv calls S19 a whole 15 mins later to say he picked up the car but still.

That's a good sign - I mean that he called at all. Your kids need to know they have people that love them. At least the guilt/love got to him eventually.

God willing, it will come sooner quite soon.

[mindfull]

Luv -

You had me in tears reading about Mr. Luv/aka JACKLOAD#2.

I'm not sure if this would help, since your kids are older, and might think you're a freak... LOL But, I took S10 to our church sanctuary this am (after seeing the orthopedic surgeon, and getting better news). I told him we could talk about or pray about whatever he wanted. And, we did. It was a real neat moment between mom and son.

Wondering if that helps!?

HUGS, LUV - 7 days! And, the girlfriends get to meet!

[Gnosis]

Ok...so Mr. Luv calls S19 a whole 15 mins later to say he picked up the car but still

That's a good sign - I mean that he called at all.

OTMP... I don't know what tea leaves you've been using... but read the label please. I'm sure it says "Immerse in water" ... not "Roll up and smoke"

This prick is a inconsiderate COWARD who hasn't got the stones to face his children after he has abandoned them and left his wife pennyless to support them. The phone call was an after-thought to cover is a$$.

I'm sorry he is being like this Luv. Lean on your family and friends for support. You will get through this rough spot just fine. (((( hugs ))))

[Onthemountaintop]

OTMP... I don't know what tea leaves you've been using... but read the label please. I'm sure it says "Immerse in water" ... not "Roll up and smoke"

I just checked the label as I smoked... and it had a warning - it said, "stay away from people that want a person to expect the least of someone she once loved". I guess I might as well not bother a reply.

[flowmom]

Luv, it's heartbreaking to read about Mr. L's callousness towards his own children. <shaking my head> I can't imagine.

hugs to you.

[luvless]

OT - you can always respond...everyone has an opinion here.

Flow - Mr. Luv has always been a pretty good dad. I won't take that away from him. Lately (these last 4 mos) he's been a horrible father. He has avoided being home at all costs and you don't do that when you have kids. His excuse is that he doesn't want to be near me but he is where he wants to be. He was choosing his whore or the shallow people he calls "friends" at work to spend time with - not the kids. It's very sad for me to watch this. I don't know what happened to the family man I married.

Ok well I'm off to bed. I had an emotionally taxing day cleaning out his closet.

Luv you guys...thanks for being here.

[luvless]

hello everyone...

I'm finished boxing up soon to be X husband's stuff. I still can't believe this is happening. I didn't expect our M to end this quickly. I thought we had more of a chance of being together forever than other couples. Well...who expects it huh?

Ok...I'm gonna try and have a decent day. I've got to polish my house up. I'm sure the anxiety will start setting in later tonight knowing he is coming to pick up his stuff in the morning...ick.

I'm wishing everyone of us here a very nice weekend.

Luv