Holy Crap! Didn't expect THIS!

[ClingingToHope]

You guys need a budget summit. I get this from Dave Ramsey's Financial Peace University. Now that you are back together, you need to sit down and go through all of the monthly bills, the income, etc.

If you are the "nerd" the one who likes spreadsheets and hates to overspend, come up with a plan. If he is the free spirit, you have to then give the plan to him and let him make changes to it.

That may hurt your spread sheet loving heart, but it will at least let him feel ownership of the plan.

I wish I'd done this with STBXW. She never knew how to save two nickels so she willingly gave control of the finances to me. I'd include her in the beginning, but then I just started making decisions on my own.

She struck back by just constantly overspending since we weren't really working together.

Now we are both in huge financial holes.