2 weeks left to DB

[newmama]

ok so in a weird way, my response to the following q's gives me hope for your sitch, Piano!

NM - trying to figure out the psychology of our husbands. Similarities/differences. Was yours scared of becoming a father pre-birth? Did he have a father? Was your pregancy planned? Did it take a long time to conceive? (sorry if qs are blunt)

No-WH was not unusually scared of being a dad. Yes, he had a birth father and a stepfather. His mom left his birth father bc she "fell in love" with the stepfather who was her next door neighbor! She cheated! She wanted her H back 18 months later but he didn't take her back and said he has regretted it.

YES our pregnancy was planned!!! Which is why this kills me!!! We started trying the year before, then I learned I had a cyst in my ovary,had it removed. WH admitted reluctance toward the end of us beng a couple if we had a baby. and so I told him to let me know when he was ready. He told me in October and we tried-bam. pregnant right away. (but the same month he started up with OW!!!!)

The thing I could see both our H's share is what your DB coach said:

Coach has spoken to a few men around their 40s who have walked away from their wives when they are pregnant because they cannot assume the role of father and husband, and conceive the idea of happiness at the same time. For them, these goals cannot meld.

although my WH was 33 at the time!

So maybe because there were differences in our WHs, then yours will come around.