She Say's She Want's Out Of The Marriage

[steady]

I'm not clear about what are asking about the 'date thing'.

If you mean about you guys having date nights, I might try this:

<insert wife's name here>, I know we've talked about going on dates and I think it's a great idea. I think it will give us the opportunity to rediscover each other outside of the every day existence of being parents, workers, etc...

I imagine it would be a way to focus on us and to re-ignite our relationship by focusing on us as a couple only. I just want you to know I really want to do it, but I'm going to leave it up to you when we start. I won't initiate anything or ask you out on a date until you begin. I'll leave it up to you for the first few dates and then I'd like to be able to ask you out on dates."

This is making your wants clear. It's drawing a boundary that is clear that you want her to initiate. It also sets the tone for you then initiating after she does it a few times first.

Maybe some other feedback by others would help us in this...