I understand the hurting thing, but remember that feelings are fleeting - you won't be hurting if you are working on making yourself happy. Three months is a long time to suffer.

I'm not trying to convince you. smile I'm just saying, don't let anyone sway you either direction. Do what is best for you according to what you know to be best based on thoughtful reflection and time - lots of time - to think it through. Outside of the influence of "feelings."

Heck, it's my H's "feelings" that have me here on this board in the first place. He "feels" in love and "feels" she's his soul mate and "feels" that he can never work on our M b/c he doesn't "feel" like he has it in him. Get the drift? If once he "felt" like working on things, his "feelings" would change.

Likewise, you should feel like working on yourself. I feel hurt and angry now, but I know that will change with my own actions to make it change.

I don't know if I am making it clear what I'm trying to say. I'm sorry if I didn't.

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