8, This is why you shouldn't have sent her flowers OR a card on her BD.
Let me explain.. Now she feels uncomfortable. (I would even say is feeling STALKED to a degree)
Her email was her way of being "nice" and yet HOPING that you get the "message".. Which is LEAVE ME ALONE.
I told you that you weren't listening. You aren't. Women very seldom will directly come out and tell a man that they want him to leave her alone. They give "hints" and hope you catch the hint. They don't want to hurt your feelings. This is what your WAW was trying to convey to you.
She is basically telling you to stop it. Stop the pursuit.
Which is what I have been trying to tell you. Now you are back at square one. The week of NC means nothing.
If you would have sent her NOTHING on her BD. No card, no flowers, you would have GAINED a week in the process of HER starting to wonder why you haven't contacted her. She can finally get a breather to think the things you want her to think. "He hasn't called, hhhmmm. oh well, he will call, he is obsessed with me. He is just playing a game. He will call. It does surprise me though that he didn't send me a card or anything on my birthday.. Hhhhmmmm."....
NOW, you have to gain back a week NC PLUS a few more weeks because of your pursuit. (can you NOW see why that little flower and card issue IS BIG?) It is COSTING you valuable time when you don't leave her alone. IT is working AGAINST you.
I also think you need to start being honest with US on this site. You lied and misled the very people that are trying to help you. Some of us veterans do know guys like you in panic try to slant the things you tell us to fit what YOU want. However, there are new people on here that are trying to give advice to you and don't even know how to handle their own relationships that DON'T take into consideration thay people asking for advice DO not always tell the truth on what is actually going on. They don't understand that you are so desperate that any hope you hear makes you feel better fot the moment. Even if you haven't told them the whole truth.
Until you face reality and start telling YOURSELF the truth, you are destined to fail. Makes no difference to me if you mislead others, but it is not the way to get her back. Time to start listening to the ones that KNOW how to handle these things instead of those stumbling through it as you are.
You are in the "hope trap". Picking and choosing what you tell us so that someone will tell you that you have "hope"
