Boundaries! I am not the best at them but there are people here that are really good at that.

Read Hold on to your NUTS..
And if you can add a signature line it helps others to know what is going on.

I would definitely post in the infidelity section and I have a strong opinion on getting intel. I think it is easier to have a solid plan when you know the real truth, IMO...

M38, H37
S3, S7
Together 15 yrs
Married 8 yrs
Bomb July 2008
Inhouse separation
"I hate you" "We are over" (too many times to count)
Reconciled Sept 2009 (still worth it)