I just caught up on your sitch. I have to say you are an example I want to follow. A class act man. I am in the same sitch. I don't have kids but W is in A as far as I know and I don't ask about it. I am just detached. We live a couple hours away from eachother and I still struggle every day with the patience.
She creeps back to me and then goes back in the tunnel. She has reached out to my sis like your W reached to your F. I have been gone now since Dec. and she has been with OM (the reason I left) for 7 months now.
I don't push either. She knows that A has to end before anything happens but I keep wanting to a line and say enough.
These folks have talked me out of that twice and then I finally got it.
Patience.
Patience.
Just wait and watch with no expectations.
You really have to get to a place of loving someone enough to let them live...and not let what they choose to do to themselves touch your love for them.
Keep your courage.
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
