Those first times they're gone are so hard. Hell, it doesn't ever really get not hard, but you get used to it I guess.
When my H started having S at his place and not being here with him, in a way it also like a huge weight lifted because he wasn't in *my* home anymore. Once the overnights started, H did not have any visitation here anymore. I didn't let him come in further than the door. I didn't have to have the house "perfect" (my H is anal about clutter and mess and I'm not so good at it...) and I didn't have to be "on" anymore while he was here for hours.
Me38,H:38,S:7 Married:6/99 Bomb:7/04 Sep.:5/05 D Filed:3/08;Final 1/10 Piecing:11/09 H moved back:09/10 Current thread: http://tiny.cc/htcty
Hell, it doesn't ever really get not hard, but you get used to it I guess. 
I didn't have to have the house "perfect" (my H is anal about clutter and mess and I'm not so good at it...) and I didn't have to be "on" anymore while he was here for hours.
