No longer "stuck808". Now my name is Bond. "MrBond

[MrBond]

JacT,

Quite honestly I had gotten over her A and her actions to a point. I don't bring them up and let things slide...to a point.

There have been consequences that have arisen from her decisions that needed to be addressed, like her boss coming to my working place to get me fired or my daughter's skin disease. Do I blame her? Sure but not as badly as it may seem.

I'm perfectly fine with letting things go, however, her actions has caused consequencs that are affecting me. And I'm not talking about emotions. Her boss was really trying to get me arrested for things I didn't do all behind her back. She works with him, therefore she is accountable for that.

It's not so much her actions that bring things to a head. It's her INACTION.

Many times our WASs have walked over us so much with a "holier than thou" attitude that they get into the habit of not treating us with respect. During this ordeal, I did the not bringing up things that bugged me and let her do what she wished. It didn't work. So I started calling her out on her BS when it was warranted and guess what? She started to talk to me more respectfully and she has actually be doing more.

My C once told me that someone in MLC will act totally selfish even when deep down inside they know it's wrong. It's as if their moral compass has lost direction. So she recommended I tell her when she's being disrespectful to me while I am standing my ground about the M and it's worked.

I'm by no means perfect. And I know there are times when I let everything out in a way that may not be the nicest. For those times I apologize to her then restate what my issue was. She responds positively to those as well.

Do I think I'm judgemental? Probably. Do I still work on it? Constantly. And all I can say is that like the rest of us, I'm trying.

Thanks for the post.