This is just to unreal, I just can't believe it. H shows up about one o'clock this morning, he turns on the light in the bedroom says you are you awake? I said yes I am now. At first I thought he was drunk, but he was completely sober, I mean to show at 1 am is a little out of the ordinary.
H said how come you haven't been answering the phone? I said oh it's still hooked up to the computer, so it doesn't ring. H says "do you want me to move back home" I said "Yes" H says "why?" I say "becuase I love you" H says well come and help me move my s*** back in. He had a load in the back of his pick up truck. As we're moving stuff he looks at me at one point and says "you know there are no guarantees" I said something like yes there are no guarantees in life.
Is this unreal or what? We didn't talk a whole lot, I just didn't know what to say at all, we did ML. He again said something about no guarantees, I said well I hope you give me more warning this time. H said I told him to move out, I said you didn't have to go. My mind was all over the place for the longest time, it took me awhile to fall back to sleep.
He did ask if S asked about him, what I told him, I said nothing, S just knows you'll be around sooner or later, but S always says "when will daddy be home" I also said S is young, they're like that at that age, can forget.
Anyway, so here I sit this morning, cautiously happy, and wondering what I do now, OMG H is back home!
When I couldn't sleep I was thinking I have to tell this person, this person...it was almost the same feeling I had when H asked me to marry him.
I'm scared and very, very happy, and then get cautiously happy--like is this real? But there's a lot of his stuff on the floor in the living room. I guess I'm OFFICIALLY PIECING. I'll have to think of a new screen name also, leftandnowhy has to go..
Do I just follow his lead for now and not bring anything up about OW, H still has more stuff there? I'm not sure I know what to do at this point, my head is spinning, but I'm happy, soo soo happy right now.
Quote: Do I just follow his lead for now and not bring anything up about OW, H still has more stuff there? I'm not sure I know what to do at this point, my head is spinning, but I'm happy, soo soo happy right now.
just keep doing what you were doing before...follow his lead and see what happens...now is not the time to address ow.
Wow - what a positive story to find on the BB this morning. I can see you being nervious though - I might suggest a telephone consutation with one of the DBing coaches - I have had 2 already and I feel that I have received very good advice and lots of insight into my sit.
OMG! This is wonderful! I agree with everyone here, keeping doing what you have been doing. And NO OW talks. If he brings it up ok, but otherwise, just take one step at a time! {{{{{CATHY}}}}}!
Cathy, I am thrilled for you. Now you have to do the honeymoon thing for a few weeks. It is like dating again: do things together, enjoy yourselves and NO R TALKS (those will come later, trust me).
"You don't throw a whole life away just 'cause it's banged up a little"
Tom Smith in "Seabiscuit"
