Itxted him and told him I wasn't comfortable with his tone of voice over the computer issue and I'd like it to be peaceful when we see each other. From now on I'll have my list ready to go.
Thank you for understanding - I'm so sorry you go through this too. I've also lived with it for nine years. Although H left me and says "we're just volitile together - it's just bad chemistry" he can say that because he is the WAS with all the power. But I know that I was miserable in my marriage and fought with him when he was like this. So I can still continue to set boundaries even though we are not together any more.
Dropping S off at his apt tonight. S was excited when we went to "visit" after school, but has been throwing tantrums since we got home. I can see he has mixed feelings and I'm so sad.
