Eye of the storm?

[cyclone]

I was angry with MC at first but then the more I thought about it the more I realized that it may be the best thing. Besides, I won't quit just because someone tells me to. I get to make that decision.

The good thing is that there is a significant dose of reality that is coming from the C. W has been (and still is) thinking that D will be a fantasy world where I will pay for the house that she will live in, as well as provide child support, and continue to take care of her and be her best friend.

She really thinks that her life can be just the same as it is right now, but with me only in it when she wants. The C is telling her that things won't be that way.

The other good thing about it is it really helps me with detachment and dropping the rope. Despite my best efforts not to do so, I have enabled her behavior. I continue to take care of the house and pay the bills. She hasn't been forced to take any financial responsibility - she doesn't even know how much money she spends in a month. These are things that she is now being forced to think about.

The things that is frustrating about the C is that she doesn't seem to believe in MLC or more importantly the underlying depression. W gets really angry that I don't initiate conversations with her, and that I won't move out of the house to give her space to see if she would miss me. I see the confusion, but C doesn't. She thinks W has clarity now and has decided that D is the path she wants to take.

For now that may be true. Who knows what tomorrow will bring. I'm still doing my thing and trying to filter through all of the spew to find the things that sting so I can keep working on me.