My WAW - Chat/Text Msg affair with her ex

[Dan1977]

Ok, so I met with the attorney and it didn't look good for the home team. It was exactly as I thought, I would basically be losing my kids and paying her over $1400/month in a no fault divorce case. In my state, the father gets 98 ovenights, but more nights can be negotiated if the other party is willing. That sucks!! All the more reason to try and avoid divorce altogether. The only thing that came out of it is the house would be mine because I purchased it before we were married. Ok so all that lawyer legal mumbo jumbo aside, I basically have no rights.

So my wife texted me before I went to the lawyer and asked me if I went to see a lawyer yet. I said no which wasn't a lie because I had not physically went yet. She said she was confused and didn't know what she wanted. I told her I was confused as well and we are facing a challenging time in our lives. We can choose two paths, one where we face our issues together and keep our family together, or split our family and go our seperate ways. I also told her that once we're split though, that cannot be undone.

When I got home, she was in a pretty good mood and she said she wanted to start over with me. I asked her what that meant and she just said she wants to work on us. I didn't pry too much, I just kept the conversation short and sweet, I wasn't rude, I wasn't confrontational, I answered her questions and didn't cause any tension. She later said she talked to one of her friends who offered to watch the kids for us if we wanted to go out on a date. I told her I would go out with her if she felt comfortable doing that. We'll see where that goes. She also said it's ok if my parents come over on Sunday for Mothers Day and she would be here too. She called her mom to see if she wanted to come up on Sunday, but she couldn't and is going to come up on Monday and stay for a few days. I think that will be good if her mom is here a few days, it will take my W's mind off OM maybe?

So I went from thinking it was divorce city for sure yesterday to maybe things could turn around for the better? It's up and down around here...but I'm still going to stick to my guns and keep referring to Sandi's list of "don'ts" to try and turn this sinking ship around. I don't even care about the stupid texting crap, I'm going to try and keep my mind off it and not pursue my wife so much, not explain why our marriage is worth saving and see what effects that has.

There may be hope for us after all, it's day by day it seems.

Dan