I've been reading DR and reading sitches here and there, along with other self help books. WAW and I only talk on phone to or about our D5 and S3. We used to talk daily 3-4 times along with other txts and going to lunch weekly. More than most of our friends do or did. We were always very affectionate, kiss and a spank whenever we saw each other and always a kiss and ILY at bed. Our sex life was good about every 5-7 days and we made sure each other had our moments.
On 1/6/10 I got the ILY but not like a W should love a H. She moved out of the house on 1/11/10 to a friends house and got an apt on 2/6/10. Since she has been there she has been ellatedly happy and enjoys her freedom and time away from me and the kids, which to me is a red flag. She couldn't be away from the kids for a weekend w/out calling 3X a day.
She became depressed after living at my parents house for about a 14 months. We moved in to take care of my father as he had a few strokes and needed help daily. My Mum was going between here and her ailing mothers house. It was a lot for her to do and W and I agreed w/out any reservations to move in and help, it was our idea. All the while we were here we were trying to save money to buy a new house or just have some sort of savings. For whatever reason, normal life exps, we couldn't. WAW works as an Acct at a firm in town and my family owns 5 auto parts store along w/ some other stuff. We are both busy but family is always first. My F and GM both died, 2/10 and 4/10. Some time around 10/10 W was becoming depressed and looking for a house, any house, and was on FB nonstop nightly after we put kids to sleep. We were a team that worked like a well oiled machine. We would take turns w dinner, dishes tubbies, dropping/picking up kids...everything, laundry, shopping...
Anyways, she is out and happier than ever it seems. I am a long ways from happy. I do a lot and always have, working, hunting, fishing, hiking and above all playing w kids. Now kids are gone a week at a time and it kills me. I talk to them at 730am and pm for about 5 minutes. Even then its just 'hi-bye-love you-bye', she says they are resilient and will be fine, D5 is going to see a IC b/c say pulled herself into a ball and now S3 is acting out, hitting, choking, scratching his friends for no reason other than they were there.
Tonight she is at a comedy club and at first she was going w her GF, cool great have fun and sure I'll watch the kids, its her week to have them. She tells me now however, she is going w a guy she met on FB. They are just friends and just started talking online just this week.
Well please just give me a little guidance and some reassurance if there is any to give...
