Hope, it IS scary--I didn't write about all he's done. One time he threw a bag of garbage at me as I walked out. 2 days ago he came out by the truck as I was driving away with the nastiest look on his face and his fists clenched. He calls me a myriad of horrible names--C*nt, whore, you name it, I have heard it.
I have been in fear for my dogs--I try to put them out in the barn before I know I'm going to be in his presence.
I completely ANTICIPATE it will happen and you should too--stop being surprised that he does this--it's going to keeep on happening for MONTHS. I have a set of clothes in my car. I am prepared, mentally, to go to a hotel in town.
I know it's tough with a child. But it just has to be done. You have to do the work (sorry). He won't. He can't.
And YOU need to learn how to do this stuff. I want a good R someday. I HAVE to learn this anyway--or my next one will be the same. It's not going to magically disappear from me EITHER to stop being a victim--I HAVE to do it!
Oh, Hope, you and I need to see the humor in this stuff and I got a huge grin when your H said you were RUDE!! FREAKING HYSTERICAL!!! Can we switch H's for a while so you can laugh at mine and I can laugh at yours!! Why is this so hard to see IN THE MOMENT!
So what if the computer is "disgusting". You know this stuff is nonsense. He is looking for any and everything to bait you with. Nothing is perfect in anyone's home. Nothing is perfect in Ow's home. Get out and let him start to pick on her.
How do we get you to see how this will free you inside. When my C said I need to leave when H is like that--no wonder I fell in love with the guy---sheesh--it was the BIGGEST WEIGHT off my shoulders!! I have had some tough moments, but it doesn't compare to the FREEDOM of not having to ever, EVER sit and take that nonsense again!!
