I really don't know what it means, PG. Part of me says she is trying to say goodbye. Part of me says she is very sad at the place we are. Part of me says she is having a hard time letting me go. Your insight would be most appreciated.

I am having a tough time right now. Just walked W out of work, as she was obviously upset. She says she is overwhelmed with loneliness, has no one to talk to, nothing to look forward to, nowhere to go. This was apparently triggered by my telling her I was going to go out with friends tonight. She says I will be fine, I will make it through this. She sees that I have lots of friends, and am moving forward. She thinks she has no friends, no one calls, no one emails, but she has cut herself off from the world. She is in a very dark place, and it seems to be getting worse. I know the OM is pursuing her hardcore, and I don't think she is taking that very well.

I told her that I am there for her. Told her we had been together for a long time, and that I was there to help whenever she needed me. She says she cannot be dependant on me.

I know I am supposed to leave her alone to sort out her demons. It is killing me that she is doing this to herself, that it does not have to be this way. I want to text her and let her know that I do care about her health and well being. I am very very worried about her.

PG, you ask what I want. I want to rebuild my R. I want to start over and move forward. I want her back in my life. Wish I knew a way to tell her that.


H 51, W 46
no kids
T 22 years
M 17 years
ILBNILWY 2/10
1st D talk 6/10
partial recovery
W files D 5/11
long distance separation 8/11
moving forward on D 10/11
legal separation complete 1/2012