I know myself it's very hard to bury 17 years of my life! That person happened and for many years I thought would be the only person I would ever be with. I had no concept of the "end", I was in it just like the vows said "for better, for worse". Our society seems to look at divorce as something like a bad flu, everybody gets it so move on. Well, it causes incredible hurt and scars that will open and close for a long, long time. The only thing that I can think of that is worse would be to lose a child (and 90% of couples who experience this end up divorced!). Anyway, I just thought I'd jump in and add to whatever it is you folks are doing! So just keep on keepin' on, it's the only way to go.