She replied you are trying to figure out how to split everything up and close all our accounts.
Important to note this (it's mind reading). Women make statements that are questions. "Are you trying to figure out how to split everything and close all of our accounts?"
You should have said, "No wife that is not what I am thinking if you want to know then please ask."
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In what ways do you think she will push my buttons/test resolve? How is it she would see how strong I am?
Draw you into a argument, question your changes, mind reading - tell you what you thinking, doing, and feeling.
She will see you as strong when you can listen to her valid complaints and understand her, when you call her on bad behavior, and she sees you want her not need her.
You want to be a lightening rod for her anger right now (BS behavior excluded.) Anger is good it means she is conflicted if she gets angry just smile on the inside and handle it. She needs to know that she can be a emotional wreck and you are a rock - in control, confident and decisive in your thinking. Time to be a leader. You can handle it.
Cheers
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
