MWG, I just wished for your own sake that you would try SOMETHING different! If you continue on this path, he won't change, and neither will you for that matter. I see you getting into a rut, even though you might not think about the situation the way you used to, he knows you aren't going to do anything different, so why should he?
I have been going out but not alone with a guy and I have had phone conversations with an old boyfriend I was very serious with. I have no intentions of starting anything with an old flame as he is married and is a doctor back east.
I have guy friends who come over but if he knows it or not, who knows as nobody here has contact with H other than S19 every few months.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Been quite busy as D18 is getting ready to go on her 10-day Senior Class trip back east this week and less than two weeks after she gets home, she graduates.
Still looking for work, too.
H expressed to S19 that things are not so great over there. H has been contacting S19 quite a bit lately but he has not been in contact with me or the girls.
Other than that, living my life.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
MWG, Not so great? What woman wouldn't want a man that does nothing but drink beer and smoke cigarettes all day? LOL I thought that was every woman's dream? LOL Well if she throws his sorry arse out, you better let him sleep in that old broken down car of his.
LOL--a mutual friend of ours told me not to be surprised if she kicks him out for good this time because she has to get up and go to work everyday, come home, supply his habit and also he does nothing.
Oh, and according to my son, H will not talk to me and the girls because he feels more comfortable with S19 since he does not come across as being angry. H thinks the girls and I have too much anger. Funny because we stay away from him.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
MWG, She might very well throw him out, if she does, you need to let him see how it will be on his own for a bit. If you let him just come back like before, you will give him the eternal right to do you any way he wants to.
MWG, Sorry to see your still here. I think of you from time to time and had so hoped that you had gotten your M back and that things were good for you. Life just isn't fair is it? Hoping that you are doing okay.
I have been D for a year in June. Life's been pretty good. Then a couple of weeks ago XH called and long story short, brought me right back here again, spinning my wheels.
Damn MLC... LUV, TOH
was theotherhalf M43 H43 M22 T25 MLC/OW bomb 4/07 Hmoved out 8/07 D6/09 Still trying to accept and move on...
MWG, I agree that you should NOT be the "rescuer" if your H is kicked out.
I think that when they come back because they HAVE to it does not require them to do the necessary work to have a healthy R. Leave the unhealthy person to the OW. You want the healthy person.
My heart aches for your Ds. I know what it is like to feel that your children will have permanent scars from the whole situation.
M: 16 years Bomb 4/07 OW 20s long gone Divorced 11/09 I remarried New Guy Cooperative r w/X regarding D
D18 will be back from her senior trip on Saturday, and she graduates two weeks from tomorrow.
Out of the blue, H texted D18 yesterday morning and D16 in the afternoon.
And, he told them both he will be coming to D18's graduation.
First we were surprised that he texted them and then we were shocked to hear that he is coming to graduation.
I am glad for my daughter's sake because she wanted him to be there.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
