I sometimes feel like DBing is similar to trying to control what is happining, but I do know that these changes I have been making are good for me and not just good for the R.
This can be confusing because if you go to other parts of this forum it is about trying to control. You won't get that here.
Tactics and strategies are about control. You want an outcome by design.
The things we encourage you to do are for YOU to control yourself. To control how the sitch affects you so you can heal.
It is only until you are to a place where you will not be affected by what has happened or what is still happening.
It has been said that you need to journey to the eye of the storm where it is calm and all about you is in turmoil but you are unaffected
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
