I would not want to get all my information and advice about the death penalty from a room full of people who recently had someone close to them murdered. I'm fairly sure they would give a certain kind of advice.
Where is this room? I think if you go out amongst the masses and tell your story you will get even more a "certian kind of advice"
Pick a smattering of your friends and family and ask there advice. One's who you know haven't dealth with infidelity (to your knowledge) What will you get? I know what I get. Fear.
In this particular corner of the room you do have people who have met with this unfortunate experience. But you also get people who have had the courage to look at this a different way. I would venture even further to say that the views, process, and general view toward life are probably in the minority of the folks in the room.
To use your analogy you would expect people who have lost someone to murder to tell you to fry the bastard!
The people here would say hold on a minute...
You can continue to jade your perceptions of what you are getting here but everytime I have felt entitled, whiny, controlling, selfish,pigheaded, wounded, hurt, upset, pissed off and fill in the _____.
These peole have brought me back to true north. That is to help ME be a better man, which will make me a better H, and hopefully my W will want this man, but if she doesn't it doesn't change who I am, and who I have become for being here.
This is much more than DBing GH. The jaded folks are the ones who haven't dealt with their pain and their fear.
And they walk out there among you.
They are the walking wounded.
So it is a very simple question.
What kind of man do you want to be?
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
