I read somewhere, maybe Kalni's, that piecing will last at least a year! You are doing fine and once the job situation gets fixed...things will be better!!!!
You are doing fine!
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Thats good to know CW were really only about three months into this and the job thing isnt helping much, but not hindering it as much as it could be! Just got to keep trying and showing him that the best woman is under his nose lol!
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Can't do this anymore, workng as much as I can to support us, and just got told off for promising some one who has been very good to me money and h being nasty about them too boot! Was out at coffee shop so just upped and walked away and drove home h gone food shopping didn't even follow me! Had enough!
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Ok, listen time to calm down. You know things are at a breaking point now with all the stress things are bound to snap. You still feel he hasn't acknowledged what you went through last year. Yes you need to feel loyal to the friends that stood by you. And no your H will not understand.
Maybe I can pass some wisdom Kalni sent my way today. Expectations of H to validate and understand can sometimes let you down. The work is with our own expectations. I'm the worse one to speak about it - so we're in this together. I don't know quite how you do let go of expectations lol but that is all we can control.
Perhaps you can start by listening and validating him? Then you may get some back in return?
Or perhaps it's time for some space - the 24/48 hr rule, and you process your feeling with us. We understand. GEt them out. But not at H. You're only going to be more hurt that he can't understand.
I'm detaching Hun, got no expectations just p'd off with being told off, one step over the too far boundary. He just came upstairs moaned I was up, told him I thought he was asleep and I just went to spend time with S then came in my room, he didn't hear any of it as he went off moaning fine fine!
I'm not taking the bait I'm staying clear of him till he gets his head back out his derrier!
Might go for a walk while it's still light it all his problem he has to deal with it I'm not!
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YOu are so good with boundaries. I could learn a thing or two. I"m really proud of you. You are still my idol. I'll put the alt on if you care to vent. (())
LR: On the topic of going with him the job is just contracting so a) I wouldnt have to and B) no I wouldnt go now with him, he has lost my trust and that will take at least a few years to build up again, once I would have gone any where for him but not now! I want to be near the friends who loved and took care of me when he didnt, where I feel safe! He doesnt acknowledge it mostly cos he doesnt think so,he has lost a large part of me I dont feel Im ever going to be able to give back, bits hopefully one day he will miss!
interesting that you don't think your emotional support system is fully with him anymore
