My opinion.
One text hinting towards reconcilliation should not have you jumping back to her.

I hate to say it- it may have been drunk texting or she may have gotten into a fight with the OM or she could have been messing with your head.

I feel this way- you do not have to do the work now... if she wants to get back with you- she will pursue you over and over and show true effort and changes by:
1. Admitting ALL of her wrong-doings
2. Going to conseling
3. Apologizing and showing true remorse

Anything less is not worth your effort or time. Standing at the ledge ready to make that leap (to D) scares everyone. She may be scared moving back towards her "comfort" zone. You can no longer be her comfort zone. Her reaching out to you may be nothing more than her feeling nervouse about the pending D.


IDK, it is easy to try to mind read and come off with all sorts of scenerios.
There should be no vagueness on her end. She drove this D train she has to be the one to stop it. IMO.

Sorry you and the kids are going through this mess.

M38, H37
S3, S7
Together 15 yrs
Married 8 yrs
Bomb July 2008
Inhouse separation
"I hate you" "We are over" (too many times to count)
Reconciled Sept 2009 (still worth it)