Surviving & Thriving

[sandycay]

Well, I wrote back and took a few issues with what he said but at the end of the day He is who he is!

But basically I ignored all the BS and told him he had to get boat and car gone by the end of the week. I guess direct threats work because he got it. I am over his bullying tactics and he gets what he gets. Not my problem anymore

It's been going back and forth between himn and the kids. The kids have told him "good bye" basically until he changes. I did encourage them to go out to dinner with him two nights ago. After not seeing the kids for 3 weeks with a hope he would be on his best behavior. he stated to the kids (after seeing my newly re-vamped garage, because now I can arrange how I want and clean, plus I got the third bay back after the boat was gone and got to mount things on the walls so nothing is on the floor anymore) He says "why didn't she do that when I was here?" Serously, slam me in front of the kids on your first attempt back. For the record on the average of once a year I cleaned the garage out from his throwing and going. Sometimes he helped, sometimes not but he never let me organize it. Then my D mentioned to him "yea, she's gonna work on the walk in attic next" To which he mumbled "she 's doing lots of clean out to be so busy with school and stuff" I cleaned the attic right before Donkey moved out last time and then he trashed it on move out and I have not cleaned it since. I always thought since he trashed it, he should clean it. Well, in order to pack his stuff up ~ I need to sort so I am cleaning as I go.


Very liberating. He is pi$$ed that I am making him get his stuff. Go figure. D has had 7 softball games ` he has shown for 1. She said last night as FFG was on his way over to bring us dinner he had made at his home (crockpot roast) and to go to her softball game with us~~ " I really like it when FFG comes over, we always have a good time, and I like him alot" Maybe she has a crush? on FFG? S has added him as a friend on FB so that is doing fine as well.

Me~ well I am feeling a little co-dependent on FFG lately. I think it stemms from me being injured and him being here and helping so much. I got use to it. It's a very comfortable, fun, easy going relationship.

He talks about future vacations and I think he is planning something with the kids for me for Mother's Day. He takes his kids back that day in the am. So there have been secretive text going back and forth between the three of them.

It will be my 1st Mother's Day without my mom :-( I can't believe it's been 10 months since she passed and 9 years since my dad. Blah~ can't go there.

I tried to go off my anti-anxiety meds via Dr's approval that I got on after donkey left the 1st time. Did not work out well, the anxiety about what I am doing, gonna do, need to do became overwhelming. I hope that after things with Donkey die down and school is out for the summer I will try again.

I will pi$$ed if I have to stay on these forever!

So the moral of the story ladies is ~ Clean that damm garage and attic and your H won't cheat on you nor will he leave you!!! It's just that simple.

Toot Toot ~ Oh, wait a minute there is the crazy train pulling through the station and what? Is that a Donkey driving the train, you say? Well, yes it is! Donkey got off the boat to take another crazy train round the mountain!

No offense to donkey's were meant in the above post.