OMG he called me today to 'say hello'. he said he was going to wal mart and wanted to know if i needed anything. WTF? i acted kinda cold, but not too cold. i ended the converstaion fist and just generally had the idea of .... why the hell are you calling me. i am going to visit my family and drive to houston from albuquerque and send him an email asking if he would like to house sit with some youtube links to cool drummers... just trying to be nice... i wanna go home and have my house taken care of... did i do good?
here is my email: Hey there, I have a question for you. I am planning on driving to houston for a visit. A very close friend of the family who i consider and uncle, 'robert', whom you have met, just very recently had his 17 year old daughter brutally murdered in mexico - I want to go and offer him my emotional support. Would you be willing to house sit for me? I am thinking about leaving this monday, or something. I need the animals fed and you could stay at the house. Lilly does not like long car rides I have discovered. I know your lease starts in a week - so I will be back by then. Let me know asap, ok? PS- here are some cool links on youtube i thought you may enjoy, and yeah, the last one is my channel.
I'm planning on driving to Houston for a visit. Would you be willing to house sit for me? I know your lease begins in a week, so I'll be back by then. Lilly doesn't do well on long drives, so I'd prefer to leave her at home. If not, that's okay, I'll make it work.
Thanks!
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Mystery. You don't need to tell him all the details of your life. Light, easy, and breezy. Just an acquaintance you know. Sunshine flows out of every pore of your body. Don't offer him any details unless he asks, and THEN only the direct answers to his questions. If he gets growly, tell him, "H, please don't speak to me this way. It's not okay. If you'd like to have an adult conversation, fine, but I won't tolerate such behavior." And then disengage from the conversation if he continues.
Leave out the links~that's still pursuing.
SD
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
well, that sucks. i already sent it. but i won't do that again. i think i was just trying to soften the blow of last night. I wasn't sunhiney at all, in fact, i was pretty cold. I am still bitter about how he treated me last and since he didn't appologize, i didn't feel like acting like nothing happened, i guess.lol... his response:
can do that. i will be in Madrid this weekend and my phone probably wont work. but consider the house and pets taken care of
mine: That's fine, I won't be leaving this weekend. The house does need to be actually stayed in for the while I'm gone, though, because of Lilly and the cat and the fish. -Jenny
If you don't HAVE to talk to him today, don't call. WAIT until you are in a better frame of mind---prepare yourself. You are not in any kind of frame of mind to talk to him today.....WAIT.
Me 45 M 25 yrs; T 31 yrs;bomb 8/15/06; moves out 7/18/08 D 18, D 14, S 12
