If dude is going to fight you, its probably good for those wounds to be fresh. If you are going to be cool and unaffected around him, its better for the wounds to be closed.
doubt at this point if he would even say "boo" to me - last i heard he is now trying to reconcile with his W who already served him with papers....so i doubt it would be physical altercation....don't get me wrong, would love to re-arrainge he face still...lol
Gman
M-37 W-36 S-11, S-9, D-4 PA exposed 3/13/10 10/19/10 moving on... most up to date sit
If dude is going to fight you, its probably good for those wounds to be fresh. If you are going to be cool and unaffected around him, its better for the wounds to be closed.
doubt at this point if he would even say "boo" to me - last i heard he is now trying to reconcile with his W who already served him with papers....so i doubt it would be physical altercation....don't get me wrong, would love to re-arrainge he face still...lol
Gman
Nice how the tables turned. let him feel like sh!t for a change. Hope his W makes him work for it.
Hugs Gman!
M: 32 H: 34 S:5 D: 3 D: 1 Together 11 years Married 7 Bomb: PA/EA 8/13/09 (for 1 year on and off) ILYBINILWY: 08/09
"The end of suffering happens with the end of wanting." -Laura Munson
well in my opinion....he needs to feel like sh!t for the rest of his miserable life.
again doubt he will have to "work for it" one thing i learned from both his W and mine is he is a great manipulator and is very selfish. his W doesn't what her kids to be from a broken home like she was so these two are more than likely going to stay together for the kids...
thanks for the hugs
M-37 W-36 S-11, S-9, D-4 PA exposed 3/13/10 10/19/10 moving on... most up to date sit
If dude is going to fight you, its probably good for those wounds to be fresh. If you are going to be cool and unaffected around him, its better for the wounds to be closed.
doubt at this point if he would even say "boo" to me - last i heard he is now trying to reconcile with his W who already served him with papers....so i doubt it would be physical altercation....don't get me wrong, would love to re-arrainge he face still...lol
Gman
He would deserve what he got too. They don't understand how much physical pain their imparting.
Sometimes they won't understand unless they feel it themself. even though its not "good" or by the "bible" or anything, sometimes I believe we should make sure they understand what they did.
That way they can have true remorse. They will understand when I do this action, thers alot of pain behind it, and this time I better be ready to be left if I do.
Because if they don't know the pain, they may very well do it again since its not that big of a deal.
Because if they don't know the pain, they may very well do it again since its not that big of a deal.
this is why i still have not forgave her or told her this....i guess i am afraid she will think it was not that big of a deal....hell i don't know any more.
M-37 W-36 S-11, S-9, D-4 PA exposed 3/13/10 10/19/10 moving on... most up to date sit
Because if they don't know the pain, they may very well do it again since its not that big of a deal.
this is why i still have not forgave her or told her this....i guess i am afraid she will think it was not that big of a deal....hell i don't know any more.
Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself. it's not saying that you're going to FORGET.. It's saying that you are going to let go of the hurt and not let it weight you down and rather, you are going to let yourself live and move on.
M: 32 H: 34 S:5 D: 3 D: 1 Together 11 years Married 7 Bomb: PA/EA 8/13/09 (for 1 year on and off) ILYBINILWY: 08/09
"The end of suffering happens with the end of wanting." -Laura Munson
let her do it again and you'll feel that same stake through the heart. I think they don't understand this is a pain that you feel 24x7 and after the period of time. That trust is broken.
That they tear our mojo out, and we may be less attractive to them because of what they are doing.
That our parity is destroyed because many of these waywards grow a lack of respect for the spouse for what their doing.
It messes everything up.
Whats the workaround? I guess being a "swinger".
Do it to her and see how she likes it. Women get crazy behind this stuff.
The thing that kills me is that these women did their thing and think we are supposed to lay back and be responsible and tend to the fort while their out doing their thing.
Do you want that part of you broken that cares if she cheats on you, disrespects you or not?
Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself. it's not saying that you're going to FORGET.. It's saying that you are going to let go of the hurt and not let it weight you down and rather, you are going to let yourself live and move on.
i guess i still struggle to acheive getting to the point where i can move on and not weigh me down...i think i am getting better but not sure if i will ever get totally to that point and it kind of scares me.
I fought so hard for her not knowing about the A - once the A was out in open and she realised how OM used her, she returned to me....but i don't know if i should be fighting any more after what she did...i love my W and my family, hence my struggle.
strange thing life is....
gman
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