Soaring Solo 2010

[Gardener]

LolaL,

Okay so I guess I am behind, can you do a quick explain on the MC? I don't know that sitch...

Quick? No.
-6 months MC. More like dual/simultaneous IC sessions "You stay on your side of the court; you stay on yours." I often complained we keep talking about talking but never talk.Wrote it in my ever-present MC journal each time. No discussion of marital issues.
-I also started noting things in my journal like "he's always siding with her," "Is this guy attracted to her?" "He keeps looking her up and down.""MC's attraction to W is palpable!"
-In first session, MC said he never sees couples individually unless sometimes once if it's really warranted. I saw him alone once. X said she saw him alone once. Months later X's benefits statement comes to our address. We saw him 13 times. I saw him once. She saw him 8 times alone.
-In second from last MC meeting, X, lost in thought, looking down says "You know, MC every time I'm in your den I wonder if its the same rug as this one here or just similar to it."(!!!) His office was 55 miles away. His home (home "office") was 77 miles away, so if she was there for IC, why travel 22 miles even farther?
-In the first meeting after she told me she wanted D he suddenly announced "Gardener, these sessions are over." "WHAT?" "Your marriage was dead when you walked in this door 6 months ago. Too much water over the dam. You should have come to me 3 - 4 years ago." He asked me to leave. Ushered me to door, said "Goodbye, Gardener. Good luck to you." Flabbergasted, flummoxed, I just left. And sat in the parking lot writing it all down.
-Went to same building, same time next week to talk to an IC. X was in the parking lot. Said she was seeing MC "One last time." A later benefits statement showed he was her IC/saw her weekly for the next five months. Then she finally did her change of address and I never saw another benefits statement again, so who knows?
-X told me she made D decision in 2/09. MC told her I don't need to know yet. She told me 4 months later.
-X told me MC told her not to tell me right away why she decided D because "He'll probably just debate you point-by-point on it"
-She told me why another 4 months later. And her "reason" was just plain bullsh!t.