Ah... But since we can't see into the future there was no way to know your h would move back home!
Yes, I think the posts I have read here this morning have helped with my thinking. I was kicking around two totally different ideas and since the folks posting to me to stop contacting David are reading his thread I believe that is the way I am going to go.
So now I need books to read on dealing with grief. I read one once but don't remember the name of it. My pastor loaned it to me when I was trying to deal with my mom shutting me out of all of their lives.
If anyone knows any good ones let me know. I may also poke around on the Surviving the D forum or Amazon and see what is available.
Hurts pretty bad to try to get this through my head. I think I always kept some hope that we would get back together and I think to do this I have to give that up or I will never move forward.
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"