I'm wondering. Since you have no contact on the weekends, Could he perceive that as because he's not on IM, rather than because you are giving him space? If he knew you were on IM but didn't send a message to him, would he appreciate that more? Would he understand that you are respecting his need for space and time to heal?
I know this is not an easy thing I'm asking you to do. But I'm looking at this as what I would tell myself, given the chance to go back and time and speed the healing process.
If I had known that giving my husband space and time to sort things out on his own would have him living with me in a new home, I'd have gone 2 or 3 months with no contact, and think it was well worth it.
Now, I'm not asking you to do that much!
I'm asking you to go a day without any contact.
Since you are talking about doing this anyway, if you decide to kick him out of your life, why not do it before making this decision and see if it brings you closer to your goals?
