Coach, Dan here seems to think that talking to an atty -- and certainly CONVEYING any sort of legal stance -- toward his wife is going to drive her away, and isn't conducive to "working on the marriage." I've tried to tell him that the one has nothing to do with the other, and mentioned you as someone who used a VERY strong legal stance effectively to save his marriage.
thanks for checking on the upthread,
Puppy
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Dan, So one lesson you can learn here is that when you thought your W's word was good about no contact w OM, she only went deeper underground w it . Learn.
The other thing I think you should understand is that you can hire an attorney and save your M at the same time. My dear H hired an attorney - a big bulldog of a lawyer when I left him to protect himself and our family. And I can promise you that all he ever wanted was to preserve our family. Just bc you have legal advice does not mean you are throwing in the towel. My opinion is that you would be foolish not to seek legal counsel. FOOLISH! Your W is gearing up to leave you, Dan. You need to get your ducks in a row. The less help you have legally, the easier you make it for her to walk away. I need you to know that it was the legal tactic that my H took which gave me te pause I needed to see what I was facing. It made me think twice and that was the second thought that turned the tide.
Greek
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
