Can you see the Morning After

[sage]

Whew! I hope that this piecemeal approach is working!

Actually that is one of my thoughts this morning. That he is no longer a part of my life and to start moving on without him. I don't mean for me to push the D through or anything like that, no reason too as I am not wanting to start another relationship right now.

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Just trying to accept that he isn't interested in being a part of my life and move on without him. If he decides he wants to come back then see where I am at that time.

Pam -- my 2 cents...how about some middle ground?

IOW, I think it's a TREMENDOUS idea for YOU to focus on YOU...DB'ing FOR YOU...making positive changes, etc.

Focus on what you can control. Always words to the wise.

Can we LEAVE out the ASSumptions about what D is or isn't feeling?

You're still REACTING to your interpretation of D's actions or inactions.

STILL dangerous stuff, Pam.

What if you focus on what you know TO BE TRUE?

Really, really true. NOT your interpretations.

Heck...I'm not sure I'd even spend a lot of time trying to glean fact from interpretation.

Isn't it enough to know that you can DB by yourself, for yourself?

Sage