I just wanted to let you know you've been in my thoughts alot lately. I need you to know I gather strength from you. Everytime I feel like I can't do this I think of you and your sitch and know damn well I can.
Thank you!
Luv, Luv
M44 H41 M20 T23 3 older teens Bomb Nov 09 "i'm not happy" EA Nov 09 w/coworker Another PA in Mar 10 I Filed Apr 10 D final Dec 10
I understand you wanting what is best for your children and to take the avenue that will yield as little drama as possible.
I guess the one thing I would say is think about how unglued he becomes when you do one thing different (ex: not greeting him) and how dramatic he becomes (stomping off). He is about to get the shock of his life... being served divorce papers and realizing all at the same time you are 110% aware of exactly what has been going on, for how long, where and with who. You really can't predict how he will react and despite your desire for a drama free exchange it might not pan out that way based on his behavior when he doesn't get his way.
At least at the apartment (and I agree that would be beyond delicious) he will have a bit of time and space to react and your children will not have to witness any outlandish behavior.
Also, if he is served at the apartment his little "friend" might also get the shock of her life that she is indeed invested with a very married man and father. Talk about getting it at both ends!
You are absolutely right, Mind. At the end of the day it is your life, your family, your kids, your situation. What works for one person doesn't work for all. So follow out whatever plan you choose.
And I know this is not what is best for everyone, but wouldn't it be awesome if he were served "Dateline NBC-Style" at the secret apartment? You know, like when they set up those sexual predator guys who think they are going to meet some 14 year old girl and instead they get the anchorman with the cameras in their faces!?
"Tell us, Mr. Mind, what were you thinking renting out this apartment? What do you have to say to your wife, your kids, your family?"
I just wanted to let you know you've been in my thoughts a lot lately.
T! Likewise!!! SEVEN DAYS until we meet! Gosh, can we cover it all in a few hours?
CG - Let's see... Dramatic? Can be. He's the type of guy that likes to show that he's in charge, is smarter, better, etc... that he can be the bigger as$hole. (GEE, WHO WANTS HIM NEXT?)
I'm fairly sure he wouldn't do or say anything stupid in front of the kids, but... who knows, when you're cornered?
BBJ - Isn't that PREDATOR? LOL I used to love that show.
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
