Why isn't he taking any of his advice? Why is he still avoiding me and not showing any interest in communicating with me at all? I guess that is what I don't understand and frustrates me.
I'm sorry but I have to disagree here.
If you look back over my thread, there's weeks when I had absolutely no communication from my husband. Including one whole solid month.
You mention on your thread about phone calls or IM chats with him on a regular basis. It seems to me that you are saying there is no communication between the 2 of you, when it's obvious from what you post, that there is regular communication.
Has there been even an entire day in which the two of you haven't communicated?
It seems to me that you are actually upset that he's not initiating communication in some form or fashion.
Tell me, do you initiate all contact?
Think about it, if you are the one initiating contact, what incentive does he have to contact you?
He knows you are faithful Pam and can count on you for not letting a single day go by without contacting him.
Why would he have any incentive for calling you when he knows he only has to wait long enough?
Pam, I'd love to have you challenge yourself to not contacting him for a day and see what kind of results that gets. When you go a day without contacting him, the next time you speak to him, does he sound refreshed and more relaxed?
If his love language is silence, what kind of message are you sending him when you continue to contact him?
Please think about what I'm saying.
Also, I wanted to tell you that your two friends turning against you strikes me as more about them and their issues, rather than about your husband 'turning them'. I know this is a wound and I understand how you feel. And I'm sorry you are hurting over this.
I still love ya Pam...I only use the 2 x 4 on those I love!
