She says not at all because she's told me there's nothing going on. She says I should just trust her based solely on her word. Nevermind she's already lied in the midst of all this current sitch and lied a LOT in the previous one. She says our problems are 100% my reaction to her just wanting to go out with friends.
And here, I think, is one of two cruxes to the problem (the other being your inability to enforce your core belief boundaries). And that is -- affair or not -- your wife, having already cheated on you and hurt you deeply once, seems to care NOT ONE WHIT about doing what's necessary to make her husband feel safe again in the marital relationship.
