I agree. He was asking this because we have both decided on seperating and have for awhile but now that I am changing and he sees that it is like he wants to hold onto me now. I think he is upset because he sees the changes but knows he won't be around to see them develop with us if we stayed together, oh well tough luck!
Katie, in my opinion he's trying to make this YOUR decision. I think he has strayed, is treating your poorly, but if he can position it like "Well, you CAN'T expect me to stay married to Katie and not ever have SEX with her, can you? And she's TOLD me that she's not going to, so . . .."
Just ignore him, as Greek advises. What a pig he's being!
I agree with Greek. Husband or wife, it doesn't matter. Completely inappropriate at this point.
Good going, Katie. Hang in there.
H 51, W 46 no kids T 22 years M 17 years ILBNILWY 2/10 1st D talk 6/10 partial recovery W files D 5/11 long distance separation 8/11 moving forward on D 10/11 legal separation complete 1/2012
This guy is still with OW? If so the comment is inappropriate. If he's broken it off and they are recovering, he can say whatever they both deem appropriate.
The reason I say this, is because I like to talk dirty and its some nasty stuff and I like to hear it back. Of course this in the context of a healthy relationship.
I honestly have no idea about OW. I am not saying that because I don't think he has one but I don't have a clue. I am going to keep acting like this because I want too and it makes ME feel good. He can feel whatever I don't care.
Katie my sitch exactly the same.H hid his phone, took it every where, never left it down.I asked if he was having an A he said No.I asked him to leave for a night, he said he walked the streets, and he wasnt having an A.I knew something wasnt right.I didnt want to believe it, but he was having an A.The night he walked the streets, no guessing where he went? I eventually got hold of the phone and found txts.Ironically they were not intimate, it was him finishing it with her. When I chllenged him with txt he told me what was going on.EA moving onto a PA. My H also had an Internet A and did all the same things...they try to hide it but they cant.... Look after you...listen to the experts here and get on with your life....
ME 44 H 45 D 14 D 20 M 22 YEARS TOGETHER 28YEARS Bomb Drop 14th July 09 Seperated-living with OW 10mths(14/07/09) MLC 3years
Silence wasn't golden in this marriage; it was deadly," Dr. Robin L. Smith
Thanks again for the advice! I am not saying you are wrong about there being OW at all. I am just doing what I think is right for me and my boys. Sucks when you realize you lost something good and know you will never get it back. I am talking about him losing me by the way:)
Katie I D my H in 91 and remarried him in 94.Nothing is impossible.You are doing the right things in looking after you and your boys.Our sitch is similiar.My H was the last person I would have thought who would have an A and he did..it hurts like hell..but some day you will be strong wnough tht if he does realises what hes lost, you will be able to make an informed decision with you in the driving seat. Whatever happens you will have a good life..
ME 44 H 45 D 14 D 20 M 22 YEARS TOGETHER 28YEARS Bomb Drop 14th July 09 Seperated-living with OW 10mths(14/07/09) MLC 3years
Silence wasn't golden in this marriage; it was deadly," Dr. Robin L. Smith
Ugh, he is ticking me off although I don't let him know that. I tell him I can't pick our son up from scouts tonight he then texts me what do I have that is so important that I can't I don't reply then he proceeds to call me 5 times in a row. I finally answer and he asks the same thing and I tell him not to be rude but we agreed that we wouldn't ask questions about the other person since this is over anyways, and he said fine then tomorrow I am going to be gone and just do something then, I said ok sounds good. And he hung up the phone on me. Was that the correct way to handle that?
