still separated, headed for D?

[newmama]

Hi Piano and M&H! Thanks for stopping by! I will post after my therapist appointment (it's in 4 hours) but wanted to clarify a couple of things first...

About goals- I don't know what goals to have in place when I am doing LRT and my WH is about to file. I mean I know that sounds silly since we are all here because our spouse has said they wanted a D.

But the difference for me I think is that after the 4th time he brought it up, he only waited 1 month (not 3 or 6) to tell me he wants to proceed. So I have to believe him.

My goals WERE to get him to spend more time here, ask me questions about what I was doing, compliment me, maybe touch me or offer some physical touch. He didn't spend MORE time here, he occasionally asked me Qs, he did compliment me, and there were times where he "didn't avoid" my body if I was standing close to him. Oh and the biggest obstacle- he was/is having an affair.

For me, I made improvements (still am)and got out of my comfort zone to meet new people. Next is signing up for activities (I took some fun classes but couldn't continue.

For LRT I need to go find my book- I hid it in my dresser drawer, but I have no goals in mind...my hope is maybe WH will miss me and his house and realize he wants an intact family and end the A.

argh. I need to detach. That is my most urgent goal.