Looking for help with WAW

[mza8]

Ok, could use a little insight on a new develpment today. As you know I sent my W flowers for her birthday last Friday. I sent flowers to her work and to her parent's house where she is living. On Sunday after church I drove by the gym with another small bouquet of flowers with a funny birthday card and left it on her car. She was at the gym. I had these flowers since Friday and didn't know how else to get them to her. I wanted to get these particular flowers to her because of the funny birthday card with them I wanted to give her. So I brought the flowers with me after church and when I saw her car at the gym, I left them for her. I didn't go into the gym that day so as not to run into her. I thought it would be a nice surprise for her when she came out. I used to leave flowers on her car many years ago and I thought it would be nice to do something special like this for her again.

Ok, that's the story with the flowers. Yes, I know, way too much pursuing. Yes, I've already admitted that I shouldn't have done it. Can we move past this, because I finally heard from my W today and could use some insight.

She emailed me today and thanked me for sending her the flowers to her work and parent's house and said she appreciated me thinking of her on her birthday. That's pretty much all I said in the card that I was thinking about her. Anyway, she went on to say that me leaving the flowers on her car at the gym made her feel a little uncomfortable. Also, my father's birthday is the same day as her's and she said she hoped my father had a good birthday.

So I'm trying to figure out if it's a good thing that she finally acknowledged and thanked me for the flowers and thanked me for thinking of her on her birthday? Again, yes, I know it was overboard and the flowers left on her car made her feel uncomfortable. That obviouosly wasn't my intention. I do see now how that could have made her uncomfortable. I did what I wanted to do and failed to see how it could have made her feel. I guess the flowers I sent to her work and parent's house was ok, she didn't say she had a problem with them or that I shouldn't have sent them. I would think she would have told me she didn't want the flowers to work and home if it was a problem. She was clear to let me know the flowers on her car made her feel uncomfortable.

Strange that she finally acknowledged the flowers as I sent them last Friday (and on her car Sunday). I guess she finally felt comfortable enough to contact me about them. I think it was good that I at least didn't contact her since I sent the flowers and waited for her to contact me. I'm glad I didn't use the house update as an excuse to contact her. By the way, she didn't mention anything about wanting an update about the house. The email was just a few sentences about the flowers and wishing my father a happy birthday.

I would like to hear what you think about this email? What should I do, if anything? Should I take this opportunity to just say that I hoped she liked the flowers and apologize for making her feel uncomfortable leaving the flowers on her car or do I just not reply to her email? I can see both sides. One, is that I do nothing as she simply acknowledged the flowers. Two, is that I take this opportunity to validate her feeling that the flowers on the car made her feel uncomfortable, apologize and tell her that was not my intention and leave it at that...simple. This could be an opportunity to show a 180 and show her some changes that I am acknowledging her feelings. I'm concerned that if i don't apologize and vaildate her feelings that she will feel that I'm not respecting her.

I am absolutely shocked that she actually acknowledge the flowers at all and thanked me for thinking of her on her birthday. I'm not making a big deal that she acknowledged the flowers as some great sign or possible positive development. I simply want to know if and how I should respond.

Could really use some advice on this one.