Has anyone else gone this route of taking turns staying at the house with the kids? Is it a good compromise? Will it do any good or is she just buying time?
I had this arrangement with my W under the agreement that all contact with OM was dropped. I wasn't about to inconvenience myself in the least if she was running around behind my back.
The agreement lasted 2 weeks. She violated the boundary and I told her I was no longer going to swap out with her. Now we just swap the kids.
I think you have to be adamant about making no compromises if the OM is still in the picture. That is a dealbreaker. If OM is around, you live like divorced people - since that is basically what you are. That means she moves out and goes wherever. When/if she agrees to no contact with OM and is willing to provide proof, you can talk about compromises.
No deals, no counseling, and certainly no going out of your way for your W if there is OM contact.
WAW Using God Me-43 W-40 M-14 S-11 S-9 D-7 EABomb 5/09 Separated 12/09
