Actually, I'm not surprised nobody at work knows about your separation. I haven't told anyone here at my work about it and it's been 1 1/2 years! It's just not something I'm proud of and I feel like a failure (even though it's not all my fault), but it's definitely not something I want to admit to or even talk about. And besides, it's really none of their business. Your H is at fault in your case, so what's he going to say to his co-workers, "yeah, my W and I are separated b/c I rather spend time with OW then my own family", you know? Same too with the family. My family are little gossipers, so everyone in the family knows, but if H's family keeps to themselves more, I wouldn't be surprised if the extended family really didn't know and wasn't just putting on a show.
Regarding the rest of H's actions, I too do believe that he doesn't want to lose you and have a D, but is it b/c of his own selffish reasons to keep you all to himself or is it b/c he truely wants an R with you? It's still hard to say at this point. It's a great step through thru thearpy that he is starting to realize his own selffish, so hopefully there will be some more eye opening epiphanies! There is definitely some reason for hope, but be on the lookout too for a fallout. I really hope this progress continues though! =)
Me 27; H 28; S 2 Togeth 9; M 4 Sep 11/14/08 EA OW1 Sep 08 EA OW2 Mar 09 EA OW3 Jun 10
