I think this first influx is a band aid. I paid all of our bills last night and had them all on the counter for her to see. Let her know that I am taking care of everything. The other job I have been working should start producing in about 45 to 60 days. That is a large amount that I could draw from and all of this is going to be done so that insecure part of her will be taking care of.
She had a moving target when the bomb dropped. Said I forced her to perform sexually when she did not want to, finances, and then all of the script of nothing had ever been good, married for the wrong reasons, childrenn only good thing that has come from it, etc....
But things were really good this past summer up until this last little episode.
I do not know what else to do, other than making her feel secure. ie, I took over the responsibility of paying the bills because I know when money is coming in and she does not. Going back to our monetary based budget system where she knows how much money she can spend per month. And, getting to a point where I can draw more of a salary from my businesses, then just to take what is needed.
This morning she asked if my money came in, I said yes, as I sat there with bills that are paid up until June. She said, "good job".
If it is more than security, I do not know what else it is. I can kind of follow you, until you get into that inner and outer child. What else could it be.
