tired of trying...

[JacT]

shelbel you have to slow down and take one step at a time.Firstly this is not about you its him and he knows it.When our H get lost in the fog, they are blind completely.They get moments of clarity and they realise what they are doing is wrong but there in lala land.You cant fix this for him.He has to do it himself.In my sitch I always did everything for H.
Hes now in a place where he doesnt know how and where to start to fix things.I wont be doing it.If we dont let them go they wont make mistakes and therefore wont learn.
The priority is you and your kids.We become wives and mothers and lose who we are as individuals.
We have to heal ourselves and be an individual in our own right before we can truly heal and/or be a partner to our H's.
Your old life is gone, let it go, there will be something better out there whether it is with or without your H.
You want to get into a space where you can make an informed decision about your life and M and not do something for the kids, for your H..its has to be what you want too.(((hugs)))
Keep going set boundaries and dont let him spew at you..this reflects how/what he feels about himself.