Dont be mad at yourself about the past. You did what was necessary at the time to try and save your M. If you went on the offensive at the time, I dont think things would turn out different in the final D judgement.
Just from my experience, work on custody issues and a parenting plan first before the money matters.
I do hope that the state of Conneticut is not as messed up in family law as its neighbor state to the south.
