Look, a deal breaker is something that you can't read in the book.
The book is a guideline for YOU to handle things. And it is also open to doing things that work. It recognizes that all situations are different and there is no cookie cutter approach to things.
Your deal breaker is just that......yours.
It appears that you are struggling with an interpretation of boundaries that you can apply to you.
It seems simple to me, although I am aware that everyone does not read and learn the same.
Boundaries are defined , in my mind, as......
Any situation that violates my own personal core beliefs, or values ( morals) that define me as a person.
They are the things in my soul that define my person....
They will be different for every individual...
And should NOT be interpreted the same in every situation. That is why it is important for YOU to define those things for you.
