I think I have read that even though the A has ended it takes a while for the betrayer to really recommit to the marriage. That they are mourning the loss of the OP. I know sounds sick... but I think that there is a lack of commitment at first, that they are managing their own sh@t if that makes sense.....

They probably have to work on a lot of guilt and shame issues....

Last edited by june72; 05/06/10 03:13 PM.
M38, H37
S3, S7
Together 15 yrs
Married 8 yrs
Bomb July 2008
Inhouse separation
"I hate you" "We are over" (too many times to count)
Reconciled Sept 2009 (still worth it)