Boundaries are the things that make Grasshopper, hop around...
Trapt is correct though....
They can't be for any lame ass thing.
They protect YOU ......
What are the things that you can accept and live with ????
What are the things you can NOT accept in your marriage ???
BINGO. That's why I like to call them "Boundaries of Personal Integrity." They should be a very short list of things that are AUTHENTIC TO YOU, and are your core-belief "N.U.T.S." which, if violated, you simply cannot abide.
All of us would safely say "I cannot remain in a marriage where my wife has sex with another man in front of me, in my own home," or "where my wife cuts me while I sleep," or something similarly dramatic. And of course no one would make it a deal-breaker if their spouse were to, say, make funny noises while they chew their food.
Well in-between those two extremes is everyone's real "boundaries of personal integrity" points. And only that person knows what they are, and that's where it gets tough: "What are mine, and what am I willing to do about it if they are continually violated?"
